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TPWD requesting ideas on improvement projects

From Enterprise Staff The Texas Parks and Wildlife Department (TPWD) Inland Fisheries Division requests ideas from angling organizations, local governments, non-governmental organizations, river authorities and tribal organizations on freshwater fish habitat…

Social media meeting leads to arrest

Angel SantosA Deer Park man is behind bars after his arrest for sexual assault of a Polk County child met online. The Polk County Sheriff’s Office received a report in July of sexual abuse involving a child. The suspect in this case met the child on social media, then traveled to Polk County, where he sexually assaulted the child. After an…
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Man steals vehicle, leaves child

By Brian Besch A Splendora man is in the Polk County Jail after and stealing a vehicle and abandoning his child Saturday morning on Youngs Lane in Livingston. The Livingston Police Department received a phone call from Union Pacific Railroad Saturday at approximately 3:30 a.m. that their train had possibly struck an individual laying parallel to…
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Crashes leave two injured

Special to the News-Standard TRINITY — Texas Department of Public Safety investigated two separate crashes on FM Road 356, just west of White Rock Acres Road on Thursday. The preliminary crash investigation indicates at approximately 11:20 p.m., a 1999 Chevrolet pickup was traveling east when the driver drove off the roadway to the right. The…
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Colmesneil purchases new city truck

A Peter Criss and Paul Stanley sighting in Colmesneil? Well, maybe not, but these two Colmesneil residents could’ve been mistaken as members of KISS at the recent homecoming parade. Can you guess who they are? There’s no prize or anything for the correct answer but give us your guesses and we’ll publish them in the next edition. COURTESY PHOTO By…
A Peter Criss and Paul Stanley sighting in Colmesneil? Well, maybe not, but these two Colmesneil residents could’ve been mistaken as members of KISS at the recent homecoming parade. Can you guess who they are? There’s no prize or anything for the correct answer but give us your guesses and we’ll publish them in the next edition. COURTESY PHOTO

National Hispanic Heritage Month

Alicia Rosas dances in the Hispanic Heritage celebration held in the city park on Saturday. A group of dancers from the St. Francis Church Ballet performed traditional folklore dancing during the event. PHOTO BY RON FOREHAND
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Residents barely escape house fire

Trinity firefighters battled a blaze at a home on Falcon Street they believed was caused by a faulty air conditioner. Courtesy photo TCNS staff TRINITY — Three residents narrowly escaped a fire that erupted on Falcon Street around 5:30 p.m. Friday. Assistant Fire Chief Keith Johnson said the Trinity Fire Department responded to the structure fire…
Trinity firefighters battled a blaze at a home on Falcon Street they believed was caused by a faulty air conditioner. Courtesy photo

Colmesneil student charged with terroristic threat

Chassin TauschBy Chris Edwardsnews@tylercountybooster.com COLMESNEIL – The Tyler County Sheriff’s Office is investigating terroristic threats made by a Colmesneil ISD student. According to Tyler County Sheriff Bryan Weatherford, deputies with TCSO responded to a report of terroristic threat on Wednesday, Sept. 21. Weatherford said that while on…
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Tribe Elects First Female Chief

Second Chief Elect Millie Thompson Williams (LIVINGSTON) — The citizens of the Alabama-Coushatta Tribe of Texas have elected Millie Thompson Williams as the Tribe’s Second Chief Elect. Ms. Williams will be the first woman to serve as a Chief in the history of the Tribe, which was forcefully relocated to Texas in the 18th Century. The Second Chief…
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Fiddlers Festival part of Crockett’s history

Katrina NikolayeffBy Jan Whitejan@hccourier.com CROCKETT – In 1970, Joe Angle penned an article for the East Texas Historical Journal entitled, “The World’s Champion Fiddler’s Festival in Crockett: An East Texas Tradition.” In the article, Angle wrote of the event: “Every year in the small East Texas town of Crockett, fiddlers from around the…
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Overcoming - recovery gave me back my son

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Overcoming 2021COURTESY PHOTO Kyle and his mother, Nancy.

By Nancy Carr

Becoming a mother was one of the greatest joys I had ever experienced. Kyle was a vibrant, exuberant child with a larger-than-life personality from the day he was born. Our family was truly blessed. He was always the center of attention and became friends instantly with anyone he met. He had this thirst for life, until he was about 12 years old. That’s when things started to change and fracture our family unit until Kyle entered recovery in 2013.

Kyle was always precocious and outgoing, it was his defining character trait. So, when he started to isolate in middle school, I became extremely concerned. He began asking why he was “different” and why he didn’t fit in. As a parent, all I wanted to do was provide the best possible life for my child, so I looked into different therapists and psychologists to help him through this period. I thought, “he’ll grow out of it – he’s so personable and has such a bright future.”

Little did I know that would be the beginning of a decade-long battle against addiction. Kyle began showing signs of depression and anxiety. He asked to see doctors, who put him on prescriptions. Kyle began abusing those medications, and soon graduated from pills to heroin. His father and I would have never guessed our child was shooting up heroin at just 15 years old.

The next eight years would be filled with ups and downs. Kyle’s father and I were in complete denial of his addiction – we thought he would rebound every time he said “I’m done.” We sent him to multiple psychologists, therapists, treatment centers, and facilities. We were able to find centers in-network but we traded quality of care for cost. Finding a treatment center that treated all three aspects of addiction seemed nearly impossible. We saw him deteriorate in front of our eyes, attempt getting sober, then fall off again and again. Kyle would hide from the world feeling overwhelming shame and guilt, but continue using. He was a slave to the drugs.

In 2013, something finally happened. After a string of failed career moves, arrests, overdoses, and increasing medical problems, Kyle finally told us he couldn’t keep doing this. We sought out a treatment center that worked on mind, body, and spirit. As parents, all Kyle’s father and I wanted for him was to be happy and productive. We listened to addiction professionals who had overcome the same debilitating disease of addiction.

Our family experienced, what I like to call, “a collective enlightenment” as a result of Kyle’s recovery. Through intensive work, Kyle finally became open and honest enough to share with our family that he was gay. He had sat in fear for so many years, thinking we would turn our backs on him. He began coming out of his shell again and engaging in life for the first time in years. I saw the vibrant, social Kyle again. Our entire family started addressing issues we had glazed over for years. We became a true family unit.

Recovery has completely changed our lives. As a family, we’ve begun to have direct and open communication with one another. Kyle and his brother are best friends again. Kyle’s father and I have never had a better marriage. Kyle’s able to show up for us and participate in his own life again. But what’s most miraculous is how those dark days are now the foundation of the strong family bond we’ve built.

Almost four years later, our lives are completely different. It was through practicing honesty, open-mindedness, and willingness, that Kyle found himself. He’s since identified that “different” feeling he experienced was due to his addiction and fear of coming out of the closet. Today, he’s a proud gay man and is a respected member of his community. He’s engaged to a wonderful man and living the life he’s always wanted. There is no greater gift than watching your child live life to the fullest, and that’s exactly what’s happened since Kyle got sober.

There’s no “right” way to prepare for a loved one’s addiction. This disease blindsides you, it hits you when you least expect it. Our family was able to overcome this disease by listening to our child, providing support any way we could, being cautious not to enable his addiction, and helping to find a recovery solution when Kyle became ready. My hope is that every parent who struggles with their child’s addiction is able to find the freedom we have, and to let them know that it gets better.

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