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Flood planning group adopts plan

Stock Photo Special to theNews-Standard After meeting to review public input and approve final plan revisions in November, the Trinity Regional Flood Planning Group has now submitted the first-ever Regional Flood Plan for the Trinity River Basin to the Texas…

Services available for people with disabilities

Special to theNews-Standard Crockett Resource Center for Independent Living’s Independent Living Services Program helps people with disabilities achieve greater independence in the home and community. Eligibility criteria for this program requires that the applicant has a significant disability who has been diagnosed by a licensed practitioner and…
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Corpus man sentenced to 30 years in prison

By Chris Edwardsnews@tylercountybooster.com CabreraWOODVILLE – A Corpus Christi man who evaded capture was sentenced to 30 years behind bars last week. Manuel Cabrera, 27, accepted a plea deal with the Tyler County District Attorney’s Office on charges of evading arrest with a vehicle; possession of a controlled substance and unlawful possession of…
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Corrigan collision kills two students

Two students have died from a vehicle accident Friday afternoon in Corrigan. The deceased were students at Stephen F. Austin University traveling on Highway 59 at approximately 1:32 p.m. A 2007 Nissan Versa was traveling southbound on Highway 59 in Corrigan, when an 18-wheeler was exiting Plant Road onto the highway. The 18-wheeler made a…
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Edgar transferred to Wainwright

By Chris Edwardsnews@hccourier.com Matthew Hoy Edgar after his arrest. Photo courtesy of Sabine County Sheriff’s OfficeLOVELADY – On Tuesday, January 10, the Texas Department of Criminal Justice (TDCJ) confirmed that Matthew Hoy Edgar, convicted for the 2020 murder of his girlfriend, Livye Lewis, is now imprisoned at the J. Dale Wainwright Unit in…
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Jackie Wilson tribute show coming to town

From Enterprise Staff “Chester Gregory: Tribute to Jackie Wilson & Friends,” the Livingston Community Concert Association’s first concert of the new year, is slated for 7:30 p.m. Jan. 28 at the Polk County Commerce Center located at 1017 U.S. Hwy. 59 Loop North in Livingston. The concert will feature Chester Gregory, an award-winning actor and…
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100th birthday

Hershel Mackey of Ace was feted with quite the celebration for his 100th birthday Wednesday. Long involved in the local community, Mackey is well-respected and greatly loved by many. He served many years as the chief of the South Polk County Volunteer Fire Department (VFD) and was also instrumental in the creation of the Ace Community Park.…
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Meth dealer sentenced to 30 years

Stock Image By Chris Edwardsnews@tylercountybooster.com ABERNATHYWOODVILLE – Last Tuesday, an Ivanhoe man was sentenced before District Judge Delinda Gibbs Walker to 30 years in prison on a drug charge. Jason James Abernathy, age 41, was handed down the sentence for a possession with intent to deliver (methamphetamine) charge. The trial and…
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Multiple arrests made in Corrigan

Three Corrigan men were arrested while law enforcement executed a warrant Monday in north Polk County. The Polk County Sheriff’s Office, along with Corrigan Police Department, executed a warrant service at a residence off of Pipeline Road in Corrigan. Deputies were advised that there were multiple subjects with active felony warrants, living at…
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Leggett man arrested for child pornography

Anthony BartunekThe Polk County Sheriff’s Office executed a residential search warrant last week pertaining to the possession of child pornography. An investigation was initiated by detectives after the Polk County Sheriff’s Office received a call in reference to a male subject in possession of child pornography, at an address off Ollie Loop in…
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Suspect in church burglary arrested

By Chris Edwardsnews@tylercountybooster.com BarredaWOODVILLE – An arrest was made of a suspect in a church burglary, and could face additional charges in several other incidents, according to Tyler County Sheriff Bryan Weatherford. Juan Gabriel Barreda, a 47-year-old Houston man, was arrested in Houston on Dec. 30, 2022, by the Houston Police…
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Crockett Police assist with drug trafficking arrest

From Staff Reports BEAUMONT – Last week, the Crockett Police Department cited the agency’s assistance in the federal investigation and prosecution of Ingrid Yaresi Balderas De Leon. De Leon was prosecuted in federal court as part of a large drug trafficking organization responsible for transporting and distributing large quantities of…
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Early morning fire

Three trucks and 12 firefighters with the Scenic Loop Volunteer Fire Department responded to a fire in the early morning hours Saturday at Pinwah Pines. The fire originated in one house and spread to a house next door. “I was the first on the scene and our main objective was to protect the exposure from getting to the third house until we got more…
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Warrant stop results in arrests

By Chris Edwardsnews@tylercountybooster.com IVANHOE – A warrant service call last week resulted in two arrests in Ivanhoe, according to Tyler County Sheriff Bryan Weatherford. Weatherford said that on Tuesday, Jan. 3, deputies with the Tyler County Sheriff’s Office stopped at a residence in order to serve a felony warrant on Jason James Abernathy,…
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MLK Day Celebrated

January 16 is Martin Luther King, Jr. day and celebrations were held all over Southeast Texas to recognize the great man's legacy. Here's a photo from the MLK day parade held annually in Woodville, Tx. (Jiim Powers/TCB Photo)
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Investigation continues into head-on collision on bridge

By Emily Banks Wooteneditor@polkenterprise.com Charges are pending against a local man as the investigation continues into a two-vehicle collision that occurred at 3:46 p.m. Jan. 9 on the Hwy. 190 causeway in Onalaska. A 2020 Hyundai Elantra driven by Kyle Mitchell Farris, 29 of Livingston, was traveling westbound and a 2010 Lexus GX driven by…
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Livingston man struck by train, later dies

Officers investigate the scene of a train/pedestrian accident that occurred downtown Thursday resulting in the death of a local man. Photo by Keitha Swann By Emily Banks Wooteneditor@polkenterprise.com A local man has died from injuries he sustained in a train/pedestrian accident that occurred downtown Thursday afternoon. The Livingston Police…
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Overcoming - recovery gave me back my son

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Overcoming 2021COURTESY PHOTO Kyle and his mother, Nancy.

By Nancy Carr

Becoming a mother was one of the greatest joys I had ever experienced. Kyle was a vibrant, exuberant child with a larger-than-life personality from the day he was born. Our family was truly blessed. He was always the center of attention and became friends instantly with anyone he met. He had this thirst for life, until he was about 12 years old. That’s when things started to change and fracture our family unit until Kyle entered recovery in 2013.

Kyle was always precocious and outgoing, it was his defining character trait. So, when he started to isolate in middle school, I became extremely concerned. He began asking why he was “different” and why he didn’t fit in. As a parent, all I wanted to do was provide the best possible life for my child, so I looked into different therapists and psychologists to help him through this period. I thought, “he’ll grow out of it – he’s so personable and has such a bright future.”

Little did I know that would be the beginning of a decade-long battle against addiction. Kyle began showing signs of depression and anxiety. He asked to see doctors, who put him on prescriptions. Kyle began abusing those medications, and soon graduated from pills to heroin. His father and I would have never guessed our child was shooting up heroin at just 15 years old.

The next eight years would be filled with ups and downs. Kyle’s father and I were in complete denial of his addiction – we thought he would rebound every time he said “I’m done.” We sent him to multiple psychologists, therapists, treatment centers, and facilities. We were able to find centers in-network but we traded quality of care for cost. Finding a treatment center that treated all three aspects of addiction seemed nearly impossible. We saw him deteriorate in front of our eyes, attempt getting sober, then fall off again and again. Kyle would hide from the world feeling overwhelming shame and guilt, but continue using. He was a slave to the drugs.

In 2013, something finally happened. After a string of failed career moves, arrests, overdoses, and increasing medical problems, Kyle finally told us he couldn’t keep doing this. We sought out a treatment center that worked on mind, body, and spirit. As parents, all Kyle’s father and I wanted for him was to be happy and productive. We listened to addiction professionals who had overcome the same debilitating disease of addiction.

Our family experienced, what I like to call, “a collective enlightenment” as a result of Kyle’s recovery. Through intensive work, Kyle finally became open and honest enough to share with our family that he was gay. He had sat in fear for so many years, thinking we would turn our backs on him. He began coming out of his shell again and engaging in life for the first time in years. I saw the vibrant, social Kyle again. Our entire family started addressing issues we had glazed over for years. We became a true family unit.

Recovery has completely changed our lives. As a family, we’ve begun to have direct and open communication with one another. Kyle and his brother are best friends again. Kyle’s father and I have never had a better marriage. Kyle’s able to show up for us and participate in his own life again. But what’s most miraculous is how those dark days are now the foundation of the strong family bond we’ve built.

Almost four years later, our lives are completely different. It was through practicing honesty, open-mindedness, and willingness, that Kyle found himself. He’s since identified that “different” feeling he experienced was due to his addiction and fear of coming out of the closet. Today, he’s a proud gay man and is a respected member of his community. He’s engaged to a wonderful man and living the life he’s always wanted. There is no greater gift than watching your child live life to the fullest, and that’s exactly what’s happened since Kyle got sober.

There’s no “right” way to prepare for a loved one’s addiction. This disease blindsides you, it hits you when you least expect it. Our family was able to overcome this disease by listening to our child, providing support any way we could, being cautious not to enable his addiction, and helping to find a recovery solution when Kyle became ready. My hope is that every parent who struggles with their child’s addiction is able to find the freedom we have, and to let them know that it gets better.

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